Reasonable
“We were told (8 years ago) updating our son’s birth mom once a year is reasonable”. It this reasonable? Yes, I am sure ASC thought it was reasonable 8 years ago! But being an … more »
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OLD Acronym Is Slow to DIE
On hospital white boards around the country and deep within adoptee files is the acronym BUFA. “Baby Up For Adoption” This acronym is used to describe a patient who is seeking medical care and is considering adoption. In the patient’s pre-natal medical records, it’s listed where you would put a “complication”, where it says she has high blood … more »
Read MoreWhen you know better.
It’s 1999 and a 23-year-old woman was considering placing her baby for adoption. She was a single mom of two and had her mother’s support to consider adoption. She and … more »
Read MoreLet’s Get Uncomfortable!
I hear this phrase at the gym and I find it difficult to get out of my comfort zone. After work, the last thing I want to do is get … more »
Read MoreAdoption Language
Language in adoption is constantly changing. And, it varies greatly. Until recently, we had been using the concept of “positive” adoption language. Once we started listening closely and more attentively … more »
Read MoreA perfect day to say Thank You…
Let me set the scene. I was very pregnant. Probably 7-8 months. I was starting to experience some swelling and water retention, pre eclamptic. Likely not feeling the best. Hormonal. … more »
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